I was on the phone with a lady the other day. She was the coach of some high school sports team and a veterinarian. Her voice and demeanor made me assume she’s a card carrying member of the “L” club. We went on, talking about what she needed from our company and then mentioned something about her husband. I was dumbfounded. So the question I pose is this, “Do you assume that someone like that is actually gay and covering it up with a hetero lifestyle, or can truly masculine women (and effeminate men) still be straight?” Now before you accuse me of stereotyping, I have a few stories to back up my assumptions about this woman, including my own. I am definitely bi, if not a lesbian, yet a I assume a very hetero life and few are the wiser to the inner-workings of my sexuality. My Aunt was mistaken for a man more than once, yet she never came out of the closet. She was definitely a lesbian and had girlfriends but it was taboo too even approach the subject. A good friend of mine told me his aunt was considered a “spinster,” which was code for lesbian, but again she was never directly addressed as that. I know of many more people who fit the bill. A couple I used to work for seemed to exude homosexual
tendencies. He spoke with a lisp, owned a flower shop and went on about cute men and threw in women to make it look like he was talking about people in general. I knew that game, cause I played it myself. It’s called “covering your queer ass.” His wife seemed very asexual. A good cover. They had an adopted kid. Need I say more?
While not all masculine women are lesbians and effeminate men are gay, it seems that these traits are there for a reason. I know that straight hard ass women all get a little bent when being accused of being a lesbian because of their manly ways, but hey at least they get to marry their man and prove em wrong. I just wish it wasn’t such a big deal to be out and show who you really are with pride, instead of sitting in our little closets, hoping to catch a glimpse of the rainbow.