I was talking to a friend the other day about the difference between what lesbians want and what society seems to deem as beautiful. I have to say I am very lucky that my husband is always complementing me on my figure and how sexy I am. I was always brought up thinking I was too big. Not so much because my parents made me feel fat, but rather my mom was always in a constant battle to lose weight. My father made her feel insecure in her beauty and physique. She was curvy, like me. Like the girls in the pictures. She was/ is beautiful, but she struggled to accept herself, as I do now. It’s difficult to accept yourself when society makes you feel inferior for being a size 12. When my friend said that it was a perfect size, I about died. My husband and a few other men I know also find curvier girls the most attractive. Lesbians as well are pretty set on the curvy girls, so I’ve been told. I know I appreciate a woman’s body, but if she’s got curves, all the better.
I don’t want to call curvy women, “real” women, because that is an assault to all women, no matter their size. We are all REAL women, it’s just the bigger the girl, the more she is overlooked and shunned. It’s a tragedy that women feel the need to fit in or are cajoled to under eat to be the “perfect size.” I understand the desire to be skinny, it’s always lit within me, but at some point we have to love ourselves for who we are. Exactly who we are. Not who we are going to be, who we might be or who we once were. I told a friend of mine once,”Look in the mirror. Say only what you would say to your friend. Use love in your criticism and love her as she is. That is what you would do for a friend, you must also do this for yourself.”
So today’s post is a tribute to women who are more the average in physique than the models we normally see in the “hottie” line up. This is not to say skinny girls aren’t hot too, or that there aren’t some sexy BBWs out there either. This is just my way to pay homage to women like myself. To say that we are beautiful, sexy and deserve to be in the spotlight just as much as the 7 foot tall waif.
Ummm, I think I’m gonna be visiting Italian Vogue’s Curvy page a bit more often… Just sayin….